Is it just me or you have also seen interviews of really well to do people/celebrities that go this way:
Interviewer: At what point did you realize you wanted to be a …
Interviewee: Ever since I was 9, I always knew …
My reaction would be 👉 Whaaaaaaaat!!!!😧 Like yooo! when I was 9, I just wanted to play, eat all the food and live like a normal kid. Now for some people, their responses could range from age 9 or less, early teen to early twenties, etc. I remember back then I would wonder to myself, maybe when I get to that age, I’d know what I want to do with my life😄. It’s even worse when I get to see the guys who would tell you that they knew what they wanted to be right from when they were babies, you’ve got to be punking me😄…that’s some pressure.
I can tell you that for every new session in secondary school, I had an entirely new idea of what I wanted to be. So I have had varied dissimilar answers to the world’s famous question “What do you want to be when you grow up?”. At one point, I wanted to be a lawyer, at another, a singer, then, an accountant, a medical doctor, an engineer, an architect or whatever else was appealing to me at the time🤭. I was reading the book, Becoming by Michelle Obama, this paragraph below gave me some relief:
I used to tell people that when I grew up, I was going to be a pediatrician. Why? Because I loved being around little kids and I quickly learned that it was a pleasing answer for adults to hear. Oh, a doctor! What a good choice! In those days, I wore pigtails and bossed my older brother around and managed, always and no matter what, to get As at school. I was ambitious, though I didn’t know exactly what I was shooting for. Now I think it’s one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a child—What do you want to be when you grow up? As if growing up is finite. As if at some point you become something and that’s the end.1
It might interest you to know that although Michelle thought she’d be a pediatrician, she eventually became a lawyer, she went on to becoming the First Lady, then an author, she is still in the journey of becoming. So it’s okay to not have it properly planned out, but as long as we keep pushing and doing what we have to, we will definitely experience growth. I have come to realize that a large percentage of us, if we are sincere enough will admit that we do not have it all figured out. We are all a work in progress, at least I know I am, it’s one step at a time. So we really need to fight the urge to compare our portion to the other person’s, accept our journeys and put in the work to get to where we want to be.
Note to self: The grass on the other side looks greener but in reality it isn’t. Your grass only gets greener when it is constantly watered and attended to.
Well, like Michelle said, growing up is infinite, it’s not like you could just be one thing and that’s the end because you can wear different hats at different times, pick up new interests and do well at them. Be patient with the process and do not be in so much of a hurry. It’s a journey and you cannot jump from where you are to where you want to be. You’ve got to go through it.
A while back, an old classmate of mine called me, then he asked a question that made me feel uneasy, he said “You’re one of the smart ones, why haven’t you gone for your masters?, I know you’d do amazing things”– now I get that this was coming from a good place, but it kinda made me question my decisions and where I was at the time, feelings of not doing enough started rushing in but I understand that people always have expectations and opinions of what we should be doing, as do I, right? and that’s fine but I am learning to remind myself that I’m on my lane and I’m going to have to move at my own pace.
The process of Becoming is a lifelong gradual process of being. Move at your own pace! Live, love, be!
PS. God is with us regardless!